Expectations And Grace In The Parent-Child Relationship
Why Don't My Kids Show ME Grace?
We all make mistakes. That's just a fact of life.
As parents, when our kids make mistakes, we often extend grace to them simply because, in many cases, they just don't know any better. They're simply doing the best they can with the tools and knowledge they have.
It's the same thing for us parents. We make mistakes. We screw up. We're inconsistent. We're too strict about some things and not strict enough about others.
We're simply doing the best we can with the tools and knowledge that we have. We learned how to parent, and how not to parent, from our own experiences growing up. Maybe it was from within our own family or what we witnessed with friends of ours.
Yet when it comes to being extended grace from our children, many times it doesn't come. Perhaps it's because they see us as someone who should have all the answers, be what they imagine as the 'perfect parent', and when we fail to meet those expectations, they take it as a personal affront.
In any relationship, it's vital that both parties extend each other grace. Having that sort of empathy based in humility (because you're not perfect!!) can go a long way towards maintaining an open and healthy relationship.