6 Steps To Redefine Your Past For A Better Future

All experiences will either change you or confirm who you are. Most people experience life on automatic, with each experience being saved in an internal file with other like experiences. Over time, as these experiences fill the folder, it colors how you see yourself.

Negative emotions tend to be more powerful, so whenever you encounter a challenge, the immediate and automatic response is one of the following:

  • “I’m not (good/smart/pretty/handsome/talented) enough.”

  • “I’m a failure.”

  • “I should have known better than to (try something new, speak up, go for it).”

This keeps you trapped where you are, stunts personal growth, and can prevent you from healing from trauma.

What if I told you that by increasing your awareness of this pattern you could rewire your brain to minimize the negative emotions.

The Model of Human Experience

  1. The Event
    The thing that happens.

  2. The Label
    The “top level” folder in your brain (school/work/relationship/family)

  3. The Meaning
    The meaning you give to the event (“I’m not ______ enough”, etc)

  4. The Emotion
    Your physical response to the meaning.

  5. Action/Reaction
    What you do.

  6. Result

You cannot change the event or the result, but you can change the meaning and emotion you give to it. That is how you begin to change how you view you and your life.

Remember, life does not happen to you, it happens for you.

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